Dear Melanie Jade,
How will I know whether a romantic partner is a soul mate?
This is a great question! And now it’s time for me to burst into song! (If you are ever around me in person, I burst into song all day long. Not the literal explosion-type bursting where my body parts fly all over the house as music begins. I’m talking about the burst like a little berry that can’t hold all its sweetness in. How’s that for an image? La-la-LA! Sing along with me!)
I’ve come to believe that we can have many soul mates, people who we are meant to spend time with and feel deeply connected to. I also believe that before coming into this physical life we make agreements with certain people to share experiences and lessons. This doesn’t mean that these people will be the love of our life that we all desire. But they have a positive purpose and a previous connection with our soul that makes it easy for us to develop a deep relationship with them.
But how do you know when you’ve met what most people consider a soul mate – the love of your life?
First, decide what you expect in your soul mate. What qualities does your soul mate have? What will you enjoy doing together? Before I met my soul mate, my Guides told me to get specific about what I wanted. I listed all the qualities I wanted my ideal mate to have. At first, I started out with basic, general things. Over the course of a week or so, I received message after message from my Guides encouraging me to think about how I really wanted a relationship to be. Think about how you want to feel when you’re around this person. When you’re making your list, keep asking yourself, “What else would I like?” You can have anything, so ask for everything that feels great to you.
Once you know what you want and know that you deserve to have the love of your life, think about the person you are considering having a romantic relationship with. How do they measure up to your list? Do they have the qualities that are so important to you? When I used this guidance, I was able to very easily know who was not my ideal mate.
Of course, sometimes you just instantly know when you meet your soul mate. I saw Mark’s name on a website and instantly knew he was the man I was going to marry. Then I spent time getting to know him as a friend, learning more about him and checking him against my list of my ideal mate. He had every single quality and more! I listed that my ideal mate likes to read in bed, likes to kayak and do outdoorsy stuff, loves to laugh, is supportive of my spiritual beliefs and practices…I had over 100 qualities on my list. I got it all, and you can too.
All of these steps, and even just reading or asking about finding your soul mate, are sending powerful messages to the Universe that you are wanting to create that amazing experience for yourself. Doing these steps helps prepare you for creating and finding the love you truly desire.
But Melanie Jade, I don’t feel like making a list. I’m just going to let the Universe decide for me what I want.
I hear this often, and that’s when I think, “How’s that working for ya?” When I was ready for my ideal mate, I did EVERYTHING I could think of or heard about in order to manifest that reality in my life. When I thought something wasn’t worth trying, I asked myself, “Do I want to find my ideal mate or not?” When someone tells me they don’t feel like making a list or even considering specifically what they want in their ideal mate, it’s a big red flag to me that they aren’t ready to meet their mate yet. That’s fine. Everything happens in perfect timing. The message I got from my Spirit Guides, and one of the techniques I used to get my ideal mate, is to make a list of how I want the relationship to feel and what qualities my ideal mate possesses. Clarifying your preferences is important, and making a list of what you want is the way to do that.
Once you know what you want, you can be on the lookout. You will mentally, emotionally, and energetically be tuned into the vibration of your ideal mate.
If you want to learn more about how to find the love your heart desires, check out my online course, Finding True Love.
Many Blessings to you!
Melanie Jade 🙂