Do you feel that there’s not enough time for you, but you keep taking on more responsibilities? Do you feel a sense of pressure or obligation to say yes when someone asks you for a favor?
Saying yes when you want to say no can lead to stress, resentment, and burnout. If you find it difficult to tell people no, the two tips I share in this video will help. Get your life (and your sanity!) back by saying no as an act of self-love.
In the video, I mentioned saying no to Julie when she asks if you can walk her dogs. But what if Julie looks disappointed and starts asking why you can’t walk her dogs?
If you’ve ever said no to someone, you know they don’t usually just accept it without wanting more information. You may not feel comfortable telling them you’d rather watch TV 🙂
Here is an example of what you can say if a simple no doesn’t do the trick:
Julie: Gosh, I was really hoping you would watch my dogs. They love you so much, and I don’t trust anyone else with them.
You: I’m sorry I can’t do it this time, Julie.
Julie: Why? Are you busy that night?
You: I already have plans. I’m sure you’ll find someone else.
Julie: What plans? Can you cancel them?
You: No, I can’t. I hope you find someone soon.
Sheesh! Julie doesn’t let up, does she? It can be difficult to maintain your position and not cave when faced with a Julie. If someone asks you why you’re saying no and what your other plans are, you have no obligation to tell them. Simply reiterate that you’re not able to do what they asked and that you hope they find someone else soon.
What if you don’t have anything else planned but you just don’t want to do it? “You Time” is not a waste of time. It is just as important (if not more important) than any other responsibility.
To make it easier to honor your needs, practice what you’ll say before someone asks you for a favor. Allow yourself to have time alone to consider whether to say yes or no, and don’t feel obligated to justify your decision.
How easy is it for you to say no? I hope these tips make it easier for you to practice this act of self-love in the future.
Sending you love!