What to Do When You Feel Fearful: Part 1

Hello Friends!

I mentioned in my post, What’s Your Wish for the New Year? Go For It!, that sometimes while taking yet another leap of faith, I am terrified that it won’t work out, that I’m not hearing my Guides properly, or that I’ll miss a sign about what to do or not do next.  The other week I received an e-mail from a truly inspiring woman asking me what I do to stay on track when I have those moments of feeling scared.  I decided to create a list of different things that have worked for me in the past.  The list was quite long, so I’ve divided it into two posts.  I know I will come back to this list in the future when I feel scared, and I hope you find it helpful as well.  Without further ado…

  • Sometimes when I feel fearful I’ll stop what I’m doing and do something completely different that’s fun and puts me in a happy frame of mind.  Doing anything physical like walking, cleaning, playing on swings at the park, or just moving to another room is really helpful for me.  It also helps me feel grounded and present when I feel out of control, and there’s no fear in the present.

I love playing on the swings!

  • Another thing I do is stop and ask myself, “What would bring me joy in this moment?”  If I can do whatever comes to my mind, I’ll do it right away.  If not, I figure out what is similar that might put me in that same joyful mindset and do that.

feet of two people taking a walkTaking a walk with my honey always makes me feel better 🙂

  • One thing I do all the time is ask for a sign.  Then, I decide to stop thinking about it for a while and come back to planning later.  Usually I’ll get a big sign when I let go and start doing something else.  For example, a month before our wedding, I was worrying about whether we would find the right caterer, and when we found one, if it would be in our budget.  Just as I was thinking about this, Mark and I stopped our car to get gas.  Mark was filling up the car, and I opened my door and looked back, prepared to express my worry to him.  That’s when I saw a big sign right above his head that read, “Newport.  Now on Sale!”  We got married in Newport, Oregon.  I knew it was a sign for me, and I instantly felt reassured.

Beach in Newport, OregonThe beautiful beach in Newport, Oregon.

I’m posting more ideas tomorrow in Part 2!  In the meantime, what works for you when you get fearful?

Melanie Jade 🙂

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  • http://www.mywingsofdesireblog.blogspot.com/ Helen

    Hi Melanie! One of my biggest fears in life was public speaking. I learnt to ask myself what is the absolutely worst thing that can happen? I think staring our fear in the face is an effective way to chase it away. I had a similar experience as a child when my brother used to chase me. One day I decided to turn around and chase him and to my surprise he ran the other way!:)

    • Anonymous

      Great idea, Helen! I did that in a scary dream I had repeatedly as a child, and it worked then too! There was a scary lady in it, and I confronted her instead of being scared. I never had that dream again. Thank you for sharing your experience 🙂